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Francesca Segal’s memoir is a moving and poetic one recounting how her twin daughters were born ten weeks early. They weighed only two pounds each and were kept in hospital for fifty-six days under intensive, supervised care. In the UK 60,000 babies are born prematurely each year. 11% are ‘very premature’ delivered between twenty-eight and thirty-two weeks. This is the category that the twins sat in. Every day that went on, their chances of survival became more likely.

This book educated me on such a shadowy world of parenting that few new parents face struggles of every day. It’s such an uncommon and distinctive narrative about the start of motherhood that’s very often concealed from society. ‘Taking my unready daughters from within me felt not like a birth but an evisceration.’ Francesca was told by nurses when she was and wasn’t allowed to mother her babies and faced the heartbreaking challenge of returning home to sleep at night without her newborn children. ‘Leaving my children each night is an amputation, over and over.’ 

One of the most warming elements of the memoir is how Francesca shows the power of female friendship in trying times when she befriends Sophie and Kemisha in ‘the milking shed’ through their related struggles. I loved reading their group WhatsApp conversations showing support and hope for one another. They faced setbacks and breakthroughs together. Francesca writes ‘Into my head drifts the phrase, It takes a village to raise a child. We as a culture have lost that village. In need, the women of the milking shed have built one.’ 

Francesca also formed a close-knit bond with the nurses and doctors on the NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit). They threw a big celebration on the ward for World Prematurity Day complete with presents for Francesca and Gabe from A-lette and B-lette. (Before the twins were named Celeste and Raffaella on day twenty-two, they were referred to as A-lette and B-lette.) Their nurse Amelia, who was facing the hardships attached to having a long-distance relationship with her boyfriend, was one of the most significant caregivers for Francesca in her memoir. Francesca helped support Amelia through her romantic relationship while Amelia helped her back by guiding her through the intensity of birthing twins prematurely. 

Eventually, on day fifty-six Francesca was permitted to take her twin girls home to start her life as a fully-fledged and independent mother. I was absolutely thrilled that the girls fought through and came out the other side and they are now happy, bouncing toddlers. Francesca has since had another daughter who luckily arrived at a later stage in pregnancy than the twins!

I wish I could include some of my favourite, heartfelt passages but they’re too long to insert into this post. This is where book recommendations in podcasts get the upper hand. I’ll leave with this sentence Francesca uses to describe how it felt having the twins delivered so soon before they were fully developed. ‘The exquisite transgression of their forming selves exposed, caught in the act of becoming.’ 
September 22, 2019 No comments
Last week I absolutely devoured Tara Westover’s memoir ‘Educated’. I’m not at all shocked that it’s an International Bestseller and one of Obama’s favourite books of 2018.

In a small valley in Idaho, Tara Westover was the youngest of seven children living on her fathers scrap-yard. The main oddity within her life was that legally she did not exist. Due to her parent's Mormon extremism, she had no birth certificate, no school records and no medical records or insurance. Her parents were persistent in living a life free from any reliance on the state or federal government. This was because her father was aiming to make the family self-sufficient in preparation for The End of Days (which he at one point believed to be Y2K). 

Tara, who had no real birthday as her family could not remember the exact day, went through a traumatic and scarring childhood. Due to their lack of health insurance, combined with the nature of her fathers work on a scrap-yard, the Westover family went through many distressing injuries, including third-degree burns on her brother’s legs and slight brain damage to her mother after a car accident caused by Tara’s father. The way Tara’s father treated his children made me furious and I was in disbelief that he allowed it to happen. As Tara’s mother was a herbalist; who eventually created a very successful essential oil business, she would ‘heal’ herself and the family with her homoeopathy. 

Alongside her already distressing upbringing, Tara was also subject to physical and emotional abuse from one of her older brothers. He was manipulative towards her and caused her intense pain; meanwhile, her parents never did anything to stop him. Eventually, enough was enough and another of her brothers convinced her she should try and pass her exams to get into BYU (a Mormon university), which is where he had studied. Her parents weren’t happy but allowed her to go. It was here that she properly began her journey with education. I was thrilled to read she was finally leaving her destructive home.

In Tara’s first few days at BYU, she was appalled by the other Mormon girls in her room wearing short-sleeved tops, drinking Diet Coke and doing homework on Sunday’s. This was not how she had been taught to behave in the eyes of God. This made her feel complete unease and resentment towards the girls. She eventually realised that not all Mormons were extremists like her parents and began to learn about the nature of the real world. She had been desensitised to how her family treated her at home. Her naivety shines through to others when she is blissfully unaware of common historical events such as the Holocaust. Due to her determination, but not without some slumps and breakdowns along the way, she ends up at Cambridge University and then completes a PhD at Harvard University. 

Much to my disappointment, she goes back home to visit her family many times throughout these years in the hope that they’ve changed and will accept her when she explains her brother's abuse towards her. She experiences absolute betrayal from her family members and her father says he will only forgive her if she agrees to be given a blessing by him. Her increased sense of self-worth meant that she rejected this offer and has since not spoken to her family. She realises during her education that her dad is bi-polar and it helps explain to her his attitude towards religion and authority. 

This memoir sent me on a rollercoaster of emotions. I was rooting for Tara’s independence from her family from the first page. She explains such a complicated attachment to the people she thought wanted to protect her, but in reality, only damaged her. I was distraught, I was enraged, I was hopeful, I was disheartened and then I was content. Her story felt fictitious and I was in a constant state of perplexity. It is an inspirational story about how getting an education changed her life.

‘There was a moment that winter. I was kneeling on the carpet, listening to Dad testify of Mother’s calling as a healer, when my breath caught in my chest and I felt taken out of myself. I no longer saw my parents or our living room. What I saw was a woman grown, with her own mind, her own prayers, who no longer sat, childlike, at her father’s feet.’ - Tara Westover
September 09, 2019 No comments
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